In Love: A Memoir of Love and Loss
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- Author：Amy Bloom
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Reviews
Janilyn Kocher
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In Love will shred you internally。 Bloom’s husband was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s and chose not to let it wither him away。 Bloom traces the hard decisions they made for Brian to end his life in Switzerland， where there are a couple of organizations for just such decisions。Brian went out on his own terms。 Alzheimer’s is a nefarious and very cruel disease， robbing its victims of their minds and leaving husks。 Keep the tissues handy。Thanks to NetGalley and Random House for the early cop In Love will shred you internally。 Bloom’s husband was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s and chose not to let it wither him away。 Bloom traces the hard decisions they made for Brian to end his life in Switzerland， where there are a couple of organizations for just such decisions。Brian went out on his own terms。 Alzheimer’s is a nefarious and very cruel disease， robbing its victims of their minds and leaving husks。 Keep the tissues handy。Thanks to NetGalley and Random House for the early copy。 。。。more
Maggie Smith
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A moving， heartfelt， but courageously honest memoir about Amy Bloom’s lived experience， from her first realization that her beloved husband， Brian， was showing symptoms of early-onset Alzheimer’s through the devastating diagnosis and finally， his decision to choose assisted suicide through Dignitas， an organization in Zurich， Switzerland that empowers a person to end their own life with dignity and peace。 She supported him throughout the process even as she jumped through legal red-tape and frus A moving， heartfelt， but courageously honest memoir about Amy Bloom’s lived experience， from her first realization that her beloved husband， Brian， was showing symptoms of early-onset Alzheimer’s through the devastating diagnosis and finally， his decision to choose assisted suicide through Dignitas， an organization in Zurich， Switzerland that empowers a person to end their own life with dignity and peace。 She supported him throughout the process even as she jumped through legal red-tape and frustrating obstacles to make it happen， while occasionally succumbing to overwhelming grief at the thought of letting him go。 This was a blisteringly moving account， brutal to read but so necessary in today’s world。 It’s a love story of a woman who cared enough to let her partner die peacefully rather than force him to tolerate gradual deterioration and humiliation。 You will find yourself wishing for a different outcome even though you know what is coming， you will find yourself crying as you imagine the scenario with your own loved ones， and you will thank whoever urged you to read this unforgettable and important book。My thanks to NetGalley for letting me read an advanced reader copy of this memoir that releases coincidentally on the same day as my own debut， March 8， 2022。 。。。more
Rebecca
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Note to self: UK release = Granta， 7 April。
Lois
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Full disclosure。: months ago， my husband passed away。 My role as caregiver was hard， unappreciated， confusing， and ultimately devastating because the best I could do was tell my husband that it was alright to die。 So， I read Amy Bloom's book about the death of her husband from Alzheimer's ， in part， to validate my own experience。Bloom， and Her husband， Brian， were second-time-around sweethearts and while their preference for activities （Brian was an outdoorsman。 Amy's home was her castle） didn't Full disclosure。: months ago， my husband passed away。 My role as caregiver was hard， unappreciated， confusing， and ultimately devastating because the best I could do was tell my husband that it was alright to die。 So， I read Amy Bloom's book about the death of her husband from Alzheimer's ， in part， to validate my own experience。Bloom， and Her husband， Brian， were second-time-around sweethearts and while their preference for activities （Brian was an outdoorsman。 Amy's home was her castle） didn't completely mesh， they gave and took enough to make their marriage work。 It worked until the day Amy began to notice subtle， then disturbing changes in Brian's behavior。 Numerous doctor's visits came to one conclusion， Brian， a former football player， had Alzheimers。When the symptoms became too pronounced for denial， Brian made a decision。 He wanted to end his life on his own terms。 But， in America， that is not an easy task。 The few states that allow for assisted suicide require residency。 There is no tourism suicide in the US。So， Amy looked further and found that a company in Switzerland took patients from overseas。 The run up to the fatal day was grueling。 Local neurologists， psychiatrists， and therapists did not want to give Amy and Brian the papers confirming his diagnosis while also confirming that his mind was sound enough to make this staggering decision。As the clock ticked， Amy took on more and more responsibility for Brian's daily life and for the pursuit of the documents they needed to open the door for Brian's life ending journey。Amy talks about crying a lot， I know she is telling the truth。 It's what happens to the caregiver， even more so to a caregiver wishing for her spouse's death to relieve him from his torture。 This is a three hanky， or three boxes of tissue， book。 Every time Amy cried， every time she expressed anger and frustration at the medical system that won't acknowledge the severity of the patient's condition and offers useless platitudes ，I raged right along with herBrian got his death wish。 Amy was caught in the conflict of letting her terminally ill husband go， or praying for a recovery she knew would never come。I can only say that this book comes from a place of truth。 It should be required reading for any grief group， not just Alzheimer's groups of which there are many。Thank you to Amy Bloom for taking a huge risk and giving words to the horrible journey that so many caregivers go on。 This is a remarkable， soul bearing book and should give "misery loves company" comfort to all of those who are walking the same path。 It should also be read in it's entirety to Congress and State Legislators so that those who suffer do not have to travel to Switzerland to lay down their burden。 Highly， highly recommended。 。。。more
Marika
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Amy Bloom is one of my favorite authors （White Houses， Lucky Us） and this memoir is another example of how gifted a writer that she is。 Amy begins to notice that her husband Brian is different， different in a way that frightens her。 He retired from his job that he loved， a job that he had only recently started and he increasingly only talks about things from the past。 Amy knows that something is wrong and eventually Brian has an MRI and it's then when he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease。Br Amy Bloom is one of my favorite authors （White Houses， Lucky Us） and this memoir is another example of how gifted a writer that she is。 Amy begins to notice that her husband Brian is different， different in a way that frightens her。 He retired from his job that he loved， a job that he had only recently started and he increasingly only talks about things from the past。 Amy knows that something is wrong and eventually Brian has an MRI and it's then when he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease。Brian is determined to die on his terms and he and Amy research ways to assist him in dying with dignity and that's how they discovered Dignitas。 （Dignitas is a Swiss non-profit members' society providing assisted/accompanied suicide to those members of the organization who suffer from terminal illness and/or severe physical and/or mental illnesses）This is a story of love。 Not the Hallmark movie type of love， but a love where one is willing to help end another's pain/sickness/terminal illness。 Readers may be divided about the issue of assisted dying but all will be united in identifying with the deep love between Amy Bloom and her husband。* I read an advance copy and was not compensated。 。。。more
Hillary Copsey
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This is a memoir of deep grief， which Bloom makes you feel from the first pages。 But some part of grief is always private and unknowable， and that comes across here， too， sometimes in ways that made for rough reading。 Why is Bloom sharing this detail， which seems unnecessary？ Why are we hearing about this episode instead of that one？ Bloom is a masterful writer; I don't doubt that she chose each word of this book with care， even if parts seemed tedious or arbitrary to me。 But then， that's true o This is a memoir of deep grief， which Bloom makes you feel from the first pages。 But some part of grief is always private and unknowable， and that comes across here， too， sometimes in ways that made for rough reading。 Why is Bloom sharing this detail， which seems unnecessary？ Why are we hearing about this episode instead of that one？ Bloom is a masterful writer; I don't doubt that she chose each word of this book with care， even if parts seemed tedious or arbitrary to me。 But then， that's true of life， too， and that's really why I like Bloom's writing: it feels true。 Thanks to NetGalley for the eArc。 。。。more
Elizabeth Olesh
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I wish I could give this ten stars。
Michael
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Amy Bloom's new memoir is masterful--an exacting picture of grief--but perhaps even more importantly， a meticulous rending of the rare dignity of someone deciding to end his own life instead of slipping into the humiliating devolution that is dementia。 Amy Bloom's new memoir is masterful--an exacting picture of grief--but perhaps even more importantly， a meticulous rending of the rare dignity of someone deciding to end his own life instead of slipping into the humiliating devolution that is dementia。 。。。more
Sheila
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I received an ARC from Netgalley。 In Love， by Amy Bloom。 I have mixed feelings about this book。 Yes it was well written。 I did not like the subject。 Going off to Switzerland to die， because he has alzheimer。
Betsy Robinson
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Amy Bloom writes with the full bandwidth of her humanity。 I’ve read and loved all of her previous books， so I had no doubt I’d feel the same about her new memoir， In Love。 Fall in love with In Love。 It’s effortless。 What sounds like a grim topic—the “accompanied suicide” of Amy’s Alzheimer’s-stricken husband， Brian—is anything but。 That’s because Amy tells the whole truth。 There is no shying away from her own sometimes demonic rage or grief， including a hysterically funny passage about what she Amy Bloom writes with the full bandwidth of her humanity。 I’ve read and loved all of her previous books， so I had no doubt I’d feel the same about her new memoir， In Love。 Fall in love with In Love。 It’s effortless。 What sounds like a grim topic—the “accompanied suicide” of Amy’s Alzheimer’s-stricken husband， Brian—is anything but。 That’s because Amy tells the whole truth。 There is no shying away from her own sometimes demonic rage or grief， including a hysterically funny passage about what she imagined her fakakta Jewish family saying as the gatekeeper at Dignitas， the suicide place in Zurich， was speaking pleasantries。 There is full disclosure of her sometimes sociopathic sense of right and wrong， her crying fits， and the inability of either her or Brian to find their way out of a parking lot even before he had dementia。 There is a journalist’s recounting of the difficulty of finding any help with compassionate suicide （even in states that allow euthanasia）。 So this book is moving， entertaining， and extremely educational， and you do not have to be interested in the subject to be swept up in the story。 And， oh yes， per the title， there is love， deep love。 And， oh oh yes， you feel every single thing because Amy Bloom feels it。Amy Bloom writes like a bedeviled angel。 She is a self-described Rottweiler—one of my favorite breeds， powerful dogs who display their enormity in both love and protection。 She is one of our greatest living American writers。***Thanks to Random House for the ARC。 。。。more
Rachel
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In Love by Amy Bloom is an honest， real， raw， and heart wrenching biography that describes love， loss， and what it means to depart with dignity and on your own terms。 This is just such a stunning memoir。 The author gives us a brutally honest look at her love， loyalty， and her relationship with her husband and the path that was chosen when a diagnosis of eventual death and deterioration is given。 Brian was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s， and through time， thought， reflection， and guidance， the decisi In Love by Amy Bloom is an honest， real， raw， and heart wrenching biography that describes love， loss， and what it means to depart with dignity and on your own terms。 This is just such a stunning memoir。 The author gives us a brutally honest look at her love， loyalty， and her relationship with her husband and the path that was chosen when a diagnosis of eventual death and deterioration is given。 Brian was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s， and through time， thought， reflection， and guidance， the decision was made for Brian to end his life in assisted medical suicide on his own terms。 The path amd journey that take place is written by Amy， and it is truly unforgettable。 It is real， honest， open， and truly devastating。 However through the loss and tears， one can see the love and devotion that was present and fundamental。 It is a topic that is not spoken aloud as often as it should be。 I really appreciate the author’s willingness to allow us to be privy to something so important and personal。 A lot of courage must have taken place not only for it to happen， but also to write about it as well。 Thank you for sharing your story。5/5 starsThank you NG and Random House Publishing Group for this wonderful arc and in return I am submitting my unbiased and voluntary review and opinion。 I am posting this review to my GR and Bookbub accounts immediately and will post it to my Amazon， Instagram， and B&N accounts upon publication on 3/8/22。 。。。more
Barbara
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Although I was sometimes annoyed with the privileged life of the author and her husband， I was ultimately won over and touched by this account of the planned accompanied suicide of her husband who suffered from Alzheimer’s Disease。
ou（rania） d。
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i don't remember the last time i devoured a book so quickly （two sittings， which for me is。。。） amy bloom is unafraid， unbothered by the thought of showing us every inch of her grief。 she puts her loss in your throat like a knot you cannot seem to swallow。 it was brutal， and yet so painstakingly tender。 everyone should read this。 i don't remember the last time i devoured a book so quickly （two sittings， which for me is。。。） amy bloom is unafraid， unbothered by the thought of showing us every inch of her grief。 she puts her loss in your throat like a knot you cannot seem to swallow。 it was brutal， and yet so painstakingly tender。 everyone should read this。 。。。more
Marylee Zink
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I won this in a Goodreads giveaway。 It is a moving memoir of the end of the author’s marriage…as she deals with her husband Brian’s progressive dementia and his desire to leave this world on his own terms。 Having experienced the downward spiral of Alzheimers in a family member， I found this was all so true。
Jennifer Hopkins
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Brutifully honest and gut wrenching memoir。 Such a beautiful relationship and how tough and compassionate to follow through with a very hard decision。 A fascinating albeit grim true love story。 I’d love to discuss this with someone else who has read。I won this as a Goodreads Giveaway。 Thank you to Amy Bloom and Random House for my ARC。
Maine McMac
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